The First Step: Making The Decision

     Parenthood is often referred to as the "ultimate joy in life". I truly believe it. Being pregnant, giving birth, and raising my beautiful baby boy has been the most phenomenal experiences of my 21 years of life. I thank God every day for blessing me with a healthy and happy bundle of joy. My son is the highlight of my life and the center of my entire world and I could not imagine what my life would be like without him.

     Unfortunately, not everyone is as blessed as I am. Medical complications as well as sexual preferences disable many people from experiencing the joys of parenthood. I believe it's just not fair. Anyone who is capable of loving and caring for a child should have the opportunity to do so, regardless of health issues or who they love or whether they want to remain single or be married. This is why I not only believe in the concept of Surrogacy but have also decided to participate in it.

     I want to give a less fortunate family or individual the chance of a lifetime: to become a parent to a precious child. I have the one and only child that I ever plan to have so I am more than ready to use my body and reproductive organs for a higher purpose.

     I like to think of myself as a selfless person. Anyone who knows me knows that my main joys in life come from helping others. I'm the type of person who will go anywhere and do anything to help someone who is less fortunate whether they are family, a friend, or a complete stranger. Becoming a surrogate mother will allow me to give someone a baby that they would not have otherwise. Just thinking of the smiles on the new parent(s) faces when they hold their new baby for the first time makes my heart melt.

     So for me, this decision is so simple. Every inch of me wants to do this. I don't mind the difficulties that come with pregnancy or even giving birth. I believe that they are just a small price to pay for such a large opportunity.

     Unfortunately, not everyone understands Surrogacy or supports it. My husband Chris was very skeptical at first. He worried about how this would affect my day to day life and my body. He mentioned that it would be strange to know that I was carrying someone else's baby inside of me. He also questioned what others would say when I told them what I was doing. He told me there were other ways to make money.

     I carefully explained to him that this was something I have wanted to for a very long time. I explained to him how much it meant to me and that I didn't care about the money. I also discussed the facts of surrogacy with him, the process, and the legal aspects. Most importantly, I told him how much I wanted to do this and how I desperately wanted his support. Of course I wouldn't do it if he did not agree, because this is something that affects him as well. Thankfully, he has come around and supports me 100%!

     My mother was worried about the emotional effects that I would face. She said that I might become very attached to the baby while I am pregnant and that it will be hard for me to give the baby up. I explained to her that the baby was never mine to begin with, so it will not be an issue!

     I am very pleased to say that ALL of my friends and family are being very supportive of my decision! I am so excited about embarking on this journey and I cannot wait to get started! So here is to the first step to fulfilling my dreams of being a surrogate mother! I will keep you all updated along the way!